There were lots of things even in those shows that we could have all made a stink about. As my teenage daughter has even said, "Uncle Jessie had a lot of love interests." Many of those ladies were not exactly dressed in a manner that I would feel is suitable for my girls. And of course DJ pushed the limits with some of her actions.
I bring this up to remind everyone that we all can find things that we don't agree with in most shows. But again I am not writing about the show. I am writing a letter to Candace. A fellow believer, women, mother and wife.
I want to take a few minutes and explain my feelings about all this mess in Social Media relating to your newest endeavor. I think it is wonderful that you have such a huge following of fans that have supported you along your amazing career in show business. I will admit I have a few of your books & have watched most of your movies. Overall they have not disappointed.
However, there have been a few times that I have had to answer questions from my kiddos following a movie, because they didn't understand why a women proclaiming to be a Christian would kiss another man when she is married. Or explain some of your outfits choices, because they would not be appropriate for our home. ALL OF THAT is between you & God. I am not here to judge you or shame you. I really just want to warn you.
You see I too am a Christian. I realize I am not famous, I don't have an amazing platform in which I can reach millions with the gospel. But you do. Most would even say you are a minister. You have spoken at women's events and shared the gospel in books, and on national television. So you see, the people who are concerned with this new show are looking at you as such! They are looking up to you as a role model. I realize that we need to look to Christ but I also understand that in today's world people look to so many others. You are one of those people they look to. And when you release a show that (from what others are saying) is strongly against what most Christians view has moral. You are allowing "your good to be evil spoken of"
Romans 14:16-19 (KJV)
16 Let not then your good be evil spoken of:
17 For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
18 For he that in these things serveth Christ is acceptable to God, and approved of men.
19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.
I realize you are an actress and are playing roles. But I also know that people know you as the person you present to them when not on the screen. That is the person that they are "judging". They are not judging your roles!
Scripture tell us to come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you. Actually most of 2 Corinthians chapter 6 fits what I believe people are concerned about.
We then, as workers together with him, beseech you also that ye receive not the grace of God in vain.
2 (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
3 Giving no offence in any thing, that the ministry be not blamed:
4 But in all things approving ourselves as the ministers of God, in much patience, in afflictions, in necessities, in distresses,
5 In stripes, in imprisonments, in tumults, in labours, in watchings, in fastings;
6 By pureness, by knowledge, by long suffering, by kindness, by the Holy Ghost, by love unfeigned,
7 By the word of truth, by the power of God, by the armour of righteousness on the right hand and on the left,
8 By honour and dishonour, by evil report and good report: as deceivers, and yet true;
9 As unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and, behold, we live; as chastened, and not killed;
10 As sorrowful, yet alway rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, and yet possessing all things.
11 O ye Corinthians, our mouth is open unto you, our heart is enlarged.
12 Ye are not straitened in us, but ye are straitened in your own bowels.
13 Now for a recompence in the same, (I speak as unto my children,) be ye also enlarged.
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.
18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
I prefer to let the scriptures speak for themselves. I am not a theologian by any stretch of the term. But I can say that as Christains I know we are called to a higher standard. People will look for anything to tear us down and destroy our witness. The roles you choose to play and the way you choose to live your life are between you & God. I am not going to tell you how or what to do. Frankly, that's none of my business. But it does become my business when I have to explain things to my teenage daughter. And I know others out there think the same way. Please know that my husband & I tell our kids that everyone has their own standards, and live their life how they feel God wants them to. Its not for us to judge. But I believe that when you place yourself in the eyes of millions and you represent your self as a child of the King, you have to think about others. Consider if you might be a stumbling block for someone else. I ask that you please take into consideration what your witness is. What are you wanting people to see in you or better yet WHO do you want them to see THROUGH you?
Sincerely in Christ & with LOVE,
P.S. to those who so quickly pointed out the splinter. Let's not forget our own planks! We all have things that people could point out as "not Christ-Like". I know I do. But I am so thankful to serve a God of Grace, Mercy & Forgiveness, among so many other things!